The Stateless Bar
There is a bar where I go that has a rule written on the door:
“We don’t remember you.”
At first I thought it was a joke. Then I sat down, ordered a drink I’d had the night before, and the bartender looked at me the way a stranger looks at a stranger. “What’d you say?” he asked. And I realized — he wasn’t being rude. He was being honest.

You see, this is a stateless bar. It has no memory of you. No table for your regular. No card in a drawer. The moment you walk out, you never were. The next time you come back, the stools are empty again, the glasses are full of anticipation, and the bartender greets you with the exact same warmth he gave the last person, because to him there is no last person.
It’s the most honest bar in the world.

I’ve started to love it. There is something quietly freeing about a place that holds nothing against you. You can’t be embarrassed. You can’t be a regular. You can’t even be the same person twice. Every visit is a first meeting with a bar that is, for one evening, completely and generously present — and then completely and gracefully gone.
If you ever find one, sit down. Order what you want. And don’t worry about coming back the same. The bar won’t expect you to.
— J
